Monogamy, explained

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  • Published on:  Wednesday, May 23, 2018
  • Here it is! Episode 1 of our new show on Netflix: Explained. There's two more at right now & new episodes every Wednesday. Subscribe to our channel! 2016, more than 2.2 million couples got married in America, but more than 800,000 got divorced. Cheating and breakups cause grief and heartache every day. Yet some historians and evolutionary biologists say monogamy is a relatively new, self-imposed system. Their evidence suggests humans lived without it for more than 250,000 years. And we only started marrying for love in the 1700s.So if monogamy is so hard, why do most of us, all around the world, make it a central goal of our lives?Vox tackled this question in the first episode of our new show with Netflix, Explained, which premieres today! We’ll have new episodes every Wednesday, on topics ranging from monogamy to gene editing to the racial wealth gap to K-pop and more. If you like our videos, then you’ll love this show; it’s our most ambitious video project to date. To watch, search “Explained” on Netflix or go to Click the “My List” button to make sure you don’t miss an episode!Read more at http://www.vox.comSubscribe to our channel! out our full video catalog: Vox on Twitter: on Facebook:


  • Vox
    Vox  a years ago +617

    Here's Episode 1 of our new show on Netflix, called "Explained." Episodes 2 & 3 are at right now, and we're releasing new episodes every Wednesday.
    Thanks for watching and supporting us over the years, we love making videos for all of you!

  • Alica
    Alica  a years ago +1000

    Finding one partner is hard enough for me

  • abby weber
    abby weber  6 months ago +222

    Non-monogamy? Gr8 good for you. Cheating? Not Cool. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

  • Kyle Li
    Kyle Li  a years ago +496

    𝕚𝕞 𝕒 𝕗𝕒𝕟𝕔𝕪 𝕗𝕠𝕟𝕥

  • destined2bebossy
    destined2bebossy  a years ago +303

    When it comes down to it, I have to be in a monogamous relationship because I can't stand that empty pit in the stomach feeling I get, when thinking about my partner with another person.

  • Aristos Achaion
    Aristos Achaion  a years ago +47

    "she's my soulmate" "well, you're mine too" 💞💘💕💝💖💓💟💘💞

  • Nudge
    Nudge  a years ago +2110

    Why am I watching this when I am single?

  • christian garcia
    christian garcia  3 months ago +34

    What is love?
    Baby don't hurt me
    Don't hurt me
    No more

  • Brandon Olivas
    Brandon Olivas  10 months ago +61

    Seeing people be aware of propoganda makes me hopeful for our little blue ball

  • jennifervan75
    jennifervan75  11 months ago +69

    I don't care what people do.
    If they're married to 1 or multiple people,whatever that's their choice.
    Just don't cheat.

  • Kim Marino
    Kim Marino  a years ago +478

    This video gives false and misleading information, monogamy is considered by most top anthropologist to be one of the big achievements of modern societies and it's advantages are indubitable. It might not be seem like the most natural relationship system when you consider our natural impulses, but our natural impulses often include also violence, hate, killing, discrimination and so on: our nature should rarely be considered a guide to a happy life. Here is a good explanation of this and I advise people to read it and not be misleaded by the false statements made in this video

  • mrjarrettisbeast
    mrjarrettisbeast  a years ago +1284

    People get hurt with cheating because it's a monogamous relationship. When you're in that type of relationship the understanding is that you'll be with one woman at that time. If you're cheated on in a monogamous relationship that's breaking a social contract between the couple. You deserve to be upset if someone cheats in a monogamous relationship.

  • Malcom Sheppard
    Malcom Sheppard  a years ago +202

    If we're going to compare social norms of humans to bonobo's then it should be mentioned that bonobo's also rape their young. It's considered normal in bonobo society. Whether they mate for love is up for debate. I'm not bashing on polymorous people by comparing them to bonobo rapists.

  • zoha deeba Khan
    zoha deeba Khan  8 months ago +32

    "he was committed to monogamy, he wasn't committed to one person"... Food for thought 🤔

  • Kat Bat
    Kat Bat  a years ago +171

    I like how they keep saying "being monogamous is HARD" for some maybe, but I don't think its hard to be a honest, good and trustworthy person in a relationship. No matter how short or how long the people have been together. TBH it really isn't hard to be monogamous, come on!

  • ThePloddingParadox
    ThePloddingParadox  a years ago +44

    As someone who practiced non-monogamy for years, I would still call this video 'Monogamy, a perspective'. There is far too much biased omission, conjecture and caricature in this for it to be an "explanation". Regardless of what anyone's position is, I don't advocate the perpetuation of miseducation.

  • Salokin
    Salokin  a years ago +1278

    Those old couples were pretty adorable

  • La vie en Rose
    La vie en Rose  8 months ago +17

    So you’re saying I should behave animalistic? Got it-

  • Anunay Sinha
    Anunay Sinha  a years ago +223

    I hate the statement Monogamy is not natural You know what else is not natural. Living in Concrete Buildings. It's natural to live in caves let's go back there xD xD Human development and evolution doesn't mean a thing right. xD
    Also Monogomy in Animals is not THAT uncommon.
    Wolves, Gibbons, french angel fish, barn owls etc. There are multiple studies on this.
    It's just a choice two humans can make. The animals that do monogamy do it for hormonal, chemical and sometimes practical reasons. Humans can willingly make the choice.
    It's not that Humans have not evolved either, humans have evolved to work with Monogamy based on social selection. But it's still a choice.
    Lastly studies have shown how offsprings benifitted more from monogamous relationships more than single parents. Though studies on kids in polyamourous relationships is very limited

  • Empire State
    Empire State  2 months ago +39

    Monogamy makes much more sense in the modern world. The world is so big, it makes sense to group together as families and raise a family with one person.